I can't remember where I first heard of the book Leadership and Self Deception, an international bestseller written by the Arbinger Institute. It's a short book, only 175 or so pages cut in a 5 x 8.5 inch format.
The cover is strikingly attractive, a collission of two black and white surfaces with some red spilling out.
The book talks about being "in the box" versus "out of the box" with respect to how we interact with people around us. As we create false impressions of reality around us, through our own rationalization, self-deception, lack of empathy, or fear, and communicate with others under these pretenses, we put ourselves "inside a box."
Being inside a box adversely affects our ability to maintain the trust, respect, and finally peace with those around us. Being able to recognize when we are leading ourselves "into the box" and taking proactive measures to stay outside of the box raises our emotional intelligence and helps maintain trust, respect, and peace with those around us.
Now let me say that the concept is groudbreaking, but the book is not. I could only get about half way through this book before I had enough of the watered-down leechy "you've turned one sentence into a whole chapter, again!" prose.
The book is written from a "corporate fairytale" perspective and I have to say I feel like I am being patronized like a seven year old at story time when I read this book. Instead of being to-the-point, the authors create a long burdensome drawn-out fabrication of actors and problems in a fictitious business culture. You are supposed to read the fairytale and apply it to your own reality.
I suppose nursery rhymes caught on well enough, so maybe that's why this book is an international bestseller. I would recommend you have someone explain the concept in the book to you, rather than spend the time reading it. If you do read this book, just read the first few chapters, then read the captions under t ick-figure drawings throughout the rest of the book to get the point.